Awareness by Anthony de Mello

Awareness

a de Mello spirituality conference in his own words

In a captivating, worldwide ministry, Anthony de Mello touched thousands through his workshops, conferences and retreats on achieving peace and happiness through increased spiritual awareness. De Mello’s comprehensive course on the spiritual life is collected here for the first time as he presented it.

Book Details

Author: Anthony de Mello
Print Length: 85
Publisher: AN IMAGE BOOK
Original source: http://www.arvindguptatoys.com
Submitted by: Website Visitor
Book format: Pdf
Language: English

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Contents

• Foreword
• On Waking Up
• Will I Be of Help to You in This Retreat?
• On the Proper Kind of Selfishness
• On Wanting Happiness
• Are We Talking About Psychology in This Spirituality Course?
• Neither Is Renunciation the Solution
• Listen and Unlearn
• The Masquerade of Charity
• What’s on Your Mind?
• Good, Bad, or Lucky
• Our Illusion About Others
• Self-observation
• Awareness Without Evaluating Everything
• The Illusion of Rewards
• Finding Yourself
• Stripping Down to the “I”
• Negative Feelings Toward Others
• On Dependence
• How Happiness Happens
• Fear—The Root of Violence
• Awareness and Contact with Reality
• Good Religion—The Antithesis of Unawareness
• Labels
• Obstacles to Happiness
• Four Steps to Wisdom
• All’s Right with the World
• Sleepwalking
• Change as Greed
• A Changed Person
• Arriving at Silence
• Losing the Rat Race
• Permanent Worth
• Desire, Not Preference
• Clinging to Illusion
• Hugging Memories
• Getting Concrete
• At a Loss for Words
• Cultural Conditioning
• Filtered Reality
• Detachment
• Addictive Love
• More Words
• Hidden Agendas
• Giving In
• Assorted Landmines
• The Death of Me
• Insight and Understanding
• Not Pushing It
• Getting Real
• Assorted Images
• Saying Nothing About Love
• Losing Control
• Listening to Life
• The End of Analysis
• Dead Ahead
• The Land of Love

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Awareness : a de Mello spirituality conference in his own words

ON WAKING UP

Spirituality means waking up. Most people, even though they don’t know it, are asleep. They’re born asleep, they live asleep, they marry in their sleep, they breed children in their sleep, they die in their sleep without ever waking up. They never understand the loveliness and the beauty of this thing that we call human existence. You know, all mystics—Catholic, Christian, non-Christian, no matter what their theology, no matter what their religion—are unanimous on one thing: that all is well, all is well. Though everything is a mess, all is well. Strange paradox, to be sure. But, tragically, most people never get to see that all is well because they are asleep. They are having a nightmare.

Last year on Spanish television I heard a story about this gentleman who knocks on his son’s door. “Jaime,” he says, “wake up!” Jaime answers, “I don’t want to get up, Papa.” The father shouts, “Get up, you have to go to school.” Jaime says, “I don’t want to go to school.” “Why not?” asks the father. “Three reasons,” says Jaime. “First, because it’s so dull; second, the kids tease me; and third, I hate school.” And the father says, “Well, I am going to give you three reasons why you must go to school. First, because it is your duty; second, because you are forty-five years old, and third, because you are the headmaster.” Wake up, wake up! You’ve grown up. You’re too big to be asleep. Wake
up! Stop playing with your toys.

Most people tell you they want to get out of kindergarten, but don’t believe them. Don’t believe them! All they want you to do is to mend their broken toys. “Give me back my wife. Give me back my job. Give me back my money. Give me back my reputation, my success.” This is what they want; they want their toys replaced. That’s all. Even the best psychologist will tell you that, that people don’t really want to be cured. What they want is relief; a cure is painful.

Waking up is unpleasant, you know. You are nice and comfortable in bed. It’s irritating to be woken up. That’s the reason the wise guru will not attempt to wake people up. I hope I’m going to be wise here and make no attempt whatsoever to wake you up if you are asleep. It is really none of my business, even though I say to you at times, “Wake up!” My business is to do my thing, to dance my dance. If you profit from it, fine; if you don’t, too bad! As the Arabs say, “The nature of rain is the same, but it makes thorns grow in the marshes and flowers in the gardens.”